Day 3 (at 11am) - No call

It is 9am on Wednesday morning, 3 days after giving HIM my business card with my full name, number, email address and profession. It also included a little note.. "Give me a call sometime.. Pia."

As a woman, and of course as being the one who initiated this process, I am struggling with the waiting game. I want to understand HIS side of things but of course all I can do is speculate, make assumptions and get frustrated.

I feel compelled to share this thought process because I know, from speaking with other people who have been in this situation before, that this is not unique to me.

Here are some possible assumptions of why he hasn't called that have made their way through my brain:

-He lost the card/my number
-He tossed the card before reading the back thinking I was being all professional-like and not trying to pick him up
-He's too shy to call
-He's just not interested
-He's married/involved already
-He's Gay
-He's being a guy and waiting as per the unspoken rule of days
-Maybe my message wasn't clear enough

I've learned over the years that I am really not the most patient person on the planet. I am an instant gratification kind of person, which irritates me because I think our society in general has become too 'Want it now, gotta have it now". And yet here I am doing the exact same thing.

And of course, because of who I am, I have told many of my friends and some family about HIM and me giving him my number. I think I partly told them all because I can't seem to keep my private life private (hence this blog) but also because I can't believe I had the gumption to give him my number in the first place and I wanted them to know I have gumption!

If I know anything about my own life path, it is that everything happens in an intricate pattern which close-up seems disjointed but when all is said and done, comes together seamlessly. In retrospect, it all looks perfectly crafted and everything happened for a good reason.

I am not afraid to admit I am putting way too much thought and energy into this process, and I will be the first to admit that I am completely inept in this dating (or in my case non-dating) scene.

In an effort to gain more experience, talk to some eligible men and get "out there", I am going to a speed dating session with a friend. It's kind of like 7 minutes in heaven but without the closet and with a lot more fire and brimstone.

Also, in an effort to be less critical and much more open to whatever comes my way, I sent a message into the cosmos (which means, I told my friends and by saying it out loud makes it more real), saying that I will accept the offer of a "real date" from the very next guy who asks me out (who is under 40 and doesn't scare me). I have to say "real date" because I go out for lunch or coffee or dinner with a lot of guy friends so it has to be clearly a date for it to count.

I know that doesn't make a lot of sense.. it makes sense to me and that's all that matters! Don't mistake this as an act of desperation.. I am far from desperate... right now.. As I said, I am just getting out there.. this year is my year to broaden my horizons "out there" and that's what
this is about.

On a side note, I didn't realize what ignorant bliss I was in over the past few years while I kept myself out of the dating scene. Wow, it is so much easier to be clear headed when you're not thinking about men!

Anyway, I will most definitely keep everyone posted about what happens next. If I don't post, it is more likely that I did meet someone because who has time to blog when you're dating??!?! ;)

Wish me luck!